She knows better than to think she owes you a second chance. She will take flight at the slightest hint of danger.
If you're loving an emotionally unavailable man who remains at a distance, isn't emotionally open, and who has admitted distrust in women, it's best you extend an unspoken invitation for him to get to know you and come close, rather than trying to "pull" love out of him like fingers from a Chinese finger cuff.
Just like a Chinese finger cuff, his love will resist your advances.
As an analogy…If your computer was hacked, what would you do? In the same (albeit, more humanistic) way, those whose trust has been violated secure and safeguard their emotions.
Similarly, someone whose trust has been abused instinctively begin to fortify a defensive position.
One of the many things that I have come to realize, to learn, is that sincerity must be reserved and given only to those who deserve it,” wrote C. Often, the most sincere people end up becoming the most guarded.
If they let you in, however, you will find that the most guarded of hearts are often the most beautiful. Money, good looks, advanced degrees, and material success do not impress her. She wasn't, however, the sweet, eager-to-please pup that dog lovers cherish.Pumpkin growled frequently and was distrusting and distant. One of my dogs is a macho Jack Russell Terrier mix and he's a real bruiser.Here goes: If I open up and ask you to be more affectionate – small version: outwardly flirt with you more to illicit affection from you, big version: tell you I’d like if you were more affectionate toward me – I am off-setting the natural balance of things in the relationship.“Natural” would be you offering me affection because you want to offer it.Guarded means lots of different things to lots of different people, and it’s rooted in even more different feelings. This type of “guarded” R and I were discussing – aka my former type – exhibits as a girl with a tough exterior – she’s edgy, she dishes it out and she can take it right back, she isn’t overly emotional. But what may seem like a personality type or act is actually more like a defense mechanism used to protect against getting hurt.