Yet dating can come with some difficulties, as asexuality isn’t typically understood.
Some asexual people are sex- and genital-repulsed (terminology among asexuals meaning they do not have sex) and do not want to be sexually intimate with anyone. Their attractions are based on the person and not on sexual attraction.
Characterised by one’s lack of sexual attraction to other people, asexuality is rare and poorly understood.
A lot of ace people date, get married, have kids, and all that other mushy relationship stuff. Navigating relationships can be confusing and complicated for everyone — asexuals included.
"I only ever had one boyfriend and we broke up due to my asexuality without me yet realizing I was ace.
That’s unfortunate because it is, as you’ve said, confusing, but it’s also exciting because it means that even the people you’ve loved the longest can still surprise and challenge you.
This might all seem a bit off-topic, but I don’t think it is. You asked me if you should stop seeing a person because she and you aren’t looking for the same things. Take out a new piece of paper or a new Tumblr draft and write out a list.
Some aces, like me, have a strong desire to form romantic relationships with others.
Other aces may be interested in building significant friendships with other people, or forming relationships that aren’t romantic or sexual in nature but that may be more committed or significant than a friendship.
That is why asexuals typically identify their romantic attractions with their asexuality.
Asexuals can be biromantic, heteroromantic, homoromantic, or a variety of labels that identify where their attractions fall on the spectrum.
It sounds like you’ve reached the scary but inevitable part of getting to know someone where you realize that as much as you like that person, they aren’t quite how you had been imagining them. You’ll be living it every time you engage with another human being, whether you just met them, you’ve been married to them for decades, or they’ve raised you from infancy.