[Editor’s note: “Cynthia Bowman” is a pseudonym, as are other names denoted with an asterisk.
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He writes that one is permitted to invite someone who lives at a distance, as long as you offer him a place to sleep so that he will not have to desecrate Shabbos.
It would be ideal were I to bump into world renowned hot Jewish funny man Jason Segel outside a bagel shop at midnight (How in the Jewish dating laws of probability is Jason Segel single btw? We’d end up at a better bagel shop the next morning, for breakfast. I have, however, accepted that I’m never going to haphazardly stumble upon my perfect single Samson in the city, ask him in our opening five-minute meet-cute if he’s Jewish, receive an affirmative response, immediately recover from that line of curveball questioning by not appearing remotely desperate, while also pocket-texting my mum ‘CAN YOU PLEASE KEEP THE KOSHER CATERER ON STAND-BY? Second, I am plagued by the concept of ‘Jewish guilt’ which results from several thousand years’ worth of ancestral hardship to keep Judaic culture alive, dating all the way back to the parting of the Red Sea.
Third, while there is always the option of converting a non-Jew, YOU try bringing that icebreaker up on a first date.
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So as time ticks on and the best of the local, reasonably aged Jewish males have been married off, I’ve made more of a concerted effort to put myself out there.
I’ve been to the singleton Friday Night buffets, the Jewish Speed-Dating evenings in ‘hip’ bars like Gilgamesh and the charity parties.
Times have changed, and that is a good thing—especially the fading-away of cruel taboos that once stigmatized women who engaged in premarital sex or bore children out of wedlock. The values question assumes that sexual mores loosen naturally from conservative to liberal.
The dating game is rigged, but the problem is not strategic â it’s demographic. Multiple studies show that college-educated Americans are increasingly reluctant to marry those lacking a college degree. It’s not that He’s Just Not That Into You—it’s that There Just Aren’t Enough of Him.
Now, I could recreate that very same experience virtually, by dating other Jews online.